This morning Ilona got to order some knitting stuff, so I in return was allowed to get some iTunes. I was in an 80′s sort of mood, so while searching I came upon Fall at your Feet by Crowded House. Later listening to the lyrics I realized that is seems to be all about being madly in love with someone who loves you not as much or not at all. I think most of us have had that experience.
For those of you lucky enough to have not had your heart broken, I do recommend it. Obviously it is painful but I believe it’s worth it when you find someone who’s just as screwed up as you and is willing to put up with all of your nonsense (yes love I am speaking of you).
I guess listening to that song brought it all back for me. It was about 20 years ago. I was living in Japan as an exchange student when I met Kaja, an American who was living there and teaching conversational English. She was older than me, maybe 23 or 24 but to me that was an older woman. We hung out a lot and even went to South Korea together where I saw my first riot. Foolish 19 year old me thought she was my girlfriend and I was trying to figure out how I was going to stay there so we could be together. I was telling someone about her one day when they were like “yeah I know her, isn’t she engaged to what’s his name?” I was floored, it had to be another American girl named Kaja living in Ustunomia teaching English. It was not. When I asked her about it she was very straight forward about it. The guy in question was an older Japanese guy with kids who was going through a divorce and custody battle. When he was free and clear they were going to get married. She had it all planned out. She honestly could not figure out why I was so upset. I was fun to hangout with but I was just a kid.
I did not stay in Japan. When my time there was over I went home and joined the Navy. I was briefly engaged to a girl back home, but really had no serious relationships until I got out and met Ilona at Western. We have been together since Spring Break 94 so I guess it’s kinda serious.
Well, that is my sad song and story. What about you? Is there a song that makes you think of a traumatic or tragic teen experience?
“I believe it’s worth it when you find someone who’s just as screwed up as you and is willing to put up with all of your nonsense (yes love I am speaking of you).”
Ringing endorsement of your spouse there, darling.
Sorry, but Kaja was a slut and a user. Later on I’m going to make you some coffee and maybe later we could watch some Hauntings? You know, we still have that lovely bottle of Pinot. We could drink wine and watch ghosties scare silly people.
Now that is what I’m talking about.
Only You by Yaz. I was not aloud to date till I was 18 but sneaky sneaky, I met a guy at the age of 17. Went away to college with said guy. Only to come home from school in 1993 and find him not returning my calls, no reason given. Just like he fell off the face of the earth! 4 months later the guy returned. Wanna know the kicker here? I married said guy! Who’s the screwed up one now?? 20 yrs later and 3 beautiful girls. I’ll take screwed up any day!!! Cheers!!
Yaz was awesome and I loved that song. How did he win you back? Not the boom box held over head in the rain? I am glad it worked out for ya’ll.
Love Yaz! LOL!! Sadly no boom box in the rain. Would have liked that though.;) Just told me he loved me and that no one else would love him the way I did.So, basically no one else would put up with his sh*t. And them picked me up on his GSX-R 1100. I have a thing for speed!
Thank You Gordon! I am too!
Love Yaz! LOL!! Sadly no boom box in the rain. Would have liked that though.;) Just told me he loved me and that no one else would love him the way I did.So, basically no one else would put up with his sh*t. And then picked me up on his GSX-R 1100. I have a thing for speed!
Thank You Gordon! I am too!
Sorry!! Typing with 2 yr old on lap does not help! She likes to push buttons too. Didn’t mean to double post.
*sigh* That’s so cute.. lol. You guys always make me smile.
“Love me, leave me, I’ve already closed that door, don’t want to be in the pain I felt before).. is the chorus to a song I really like. (Is not an 80s song though, sorry lol) Flashing back a decade, I can remember and (wince) see what I was like. Hopeful, enthusiastic, full steam ahead, optimistic. But also very naive,I went into it thinking about all the ways to please and help him without giving much thought to myself. Hooo boy, I was a yoyo. But a loving yoyo. (late teens,me, late 20s him) Two people at two very different places in their lives. Took me a while to gain perspective on that relationship and what it did to color my views.
Goodbye to you – Michele Branch. That song made me cry for a week after I broke up with the guy I had been dating for a year and a half. That song will always remind me of him.
Have you ever been with someone who seemed so great, but once you’re put together, everything is wrong? He wasn’t a bad person, I’m not a bad person, but together we weren’t good. Lots of fighting, anger, hurt, etc. Some call that passion; I call it painful. Passion doesn’t have to be pain.
That sounds like my first love. The song that reminds me is Foolish Games by Jewel.
We were like fuel & fire together.
It was the most heartbreaking & painful relationship I had ever been in.
The sheer relief that I felt when I finally said enough- said it all.
Oh lord, you had to pry open that box of nightmares, didn’t you? High school. I think I was fifteen or sixteen and totally in love with a guy who didn’t know I existed. Pure unrequited love. The song? “Blackbird” by the Beatles.
“Blackbird singing in the dead of night
Take these broken wings and learn to fly
All your life
You were only waiting for this moment to arise.
He moved out of town and I never saw him again. Probably a good thing, actually. But I can’t hear that song without thinking of him.
I have a thing for angry rock music, especially after a breakup.
Nothing like an angry rock song to get you moving again after finding out you were being used to get a green card. He was a great con man, and played things up so well that even his own friends didn’t realize what he was doing. That’s how we met…through friends. We went to spend some time in Aussie with him, and when he wanted to get married that week I hesitated, the timing didn’t feel right. Got a break up email the day after I got home. He married someone else two weeks later.
*turns up music* Rock on!
I’ve had my heart broken other ways, but don’t have much to contribute here since I married my H.S. sweetheart (not to say we didn’t have troubles) and since it’s been over 16 years and we’re still going strong………
That girl should have been upfront with you, but liked the attention. Bleh! And now you have Ilona!
Another Level Guess I was out the week I got my 16 year old heart broken by the man I thought I was in love with. Words were very appropriate – I guess I was a fool for loving you and I guess I was a fool for thinking you were loving me too – still can’t hear it without thinking of him a bit. Although 10 years later I can remember the good things!
Oops it was actually called Guess I was a Fool! Not Guess I was!!
My #1 sad song that remind me of break ups in my life is Addicted by Dan Seals. The song peaked at #1 on the country charts in 1988, becoming his eighth straight number-one single.
The Dan Seals version of Addicted is actually a shortened version. The original version by the singer/songwriter Cheryl Wheeler is even more depressing/heartfelt than the Dan Seals version.
Lyrics and their explanation/meaning
http://www.cherylwheeler.com/songs/addict.html
YouTube video of the original version with Dan Seals
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sju7osFbV9w
YouTube video of the extended version of the song with Dan Seals and Cheryl Wheeler
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nKHSBHahwiA&
Even though this song is 21 years old, its theme is timeless, IMHO.
“Left and Leaving” by the Weakerthans.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IgJ6soX18R8
One of the saddest songs…
I first heard it right after I had to move from Ohio to Florida after living in one place my entire life. It reminded me of everyone and everything I had left behind.
Lyrics:
My city’s still breathing (but barely it’s true)
through buildings gone missing like teeth.
The sidewalks are watching me think about you,
sparkled with broken glass.
I’m back with scars to show.
Back with the streets I know
Will never take me anywhere but here.
The stain in the carpet, this drink in my hand,
the strangers whose faces I know.
We meet here for our dress-rehearsal to say ” I wanted it this way”
Wait for the year to drown.
Spring forward, fall back down.
I’m trying not to wonder where you are.
All this time lingers, undefined.
Someone choose who’s left and who’s leaving.
Memory will rust and erode into lists of all that you gave me:
a blanket, some matches, this pain in my chest,
the best parts of Lonely, duct-tape and soldered wires,
new words for old desires,
and every birthday card I threw away.
I wait in 4/4 time.
Count yellow highway lines that your relying on will lead you home.
I’m with Maurianne – give me a rollicking good rock tune to get over someone.
About the time of my last major break-up, ‘Since You’ve Been Gone’ by Kelly Clarkson was out and, while not particularly hard in the music sense, it was angry enough for my raw feelings.
‘Crave’ by The Butterfly Effect (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxAO6LovpKM) is angry, and twisted, and dark and I love it. I’m very glad I can’t relate to it though…
Well if you didn’t have to go through that “love and lose” you wouldn’t be the person you are today.
Why do I get the feeling that everyone who comments is 18 years old here?
Been married 31 years. Gee, did I just give away my age?